When I reflect upon myself, one of the funniest things I notice is how fickle a person's attitude can be dependent on their memory. When somebody is angry or in various ways unhappy with another person, the only memory that preoccupies that person is the very incident that has brought about that feeling of unhappiness. If it were only that, then maybe things could be better, but alongside that memory comes any other instances where similar discontent had settled into their minds. It's as if a human's mind is one big google search agent that is "smart" enough to search for the word "angry" when one is, well, angry. The result page will naturally bring up every single related bad memories it can find ( complete with a link to similar memories and cached versions of those angry moments for easy access, of course ). All those times spent indexing happy memories are obviously no good when the keyword you have typed in is "angry". Even if the search engine had flaws that made it display results from unrelated branches of the index after all the highly relevant matches are shown, all of them would be ranked so low, that just as even the most persistent google result diggers wouldn't bother looking past page 10 of the search results page, people won't bother trying to dig up any happy memories that may exist on the back of their minds when they're concentrated on their current anger.

Maybe we, as human beings, shouldn't be behaving like google. Perhaps when you're angry with somebody else what you should do is enter "happy" into the search engine and look for the times when you were angry with that other person. Depending on your relationship, don't you think it's possible that by the time you reach that 11th page listing those angry moments, you would have realized just how blessed you are to have this other person in your life? Food for thought. :)